{"id":2709,"date":"2020-02-01T00:20:01","date_gmt":"2020-02-01T05:20:01","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/randywithers.com\/?p=2709---119c3cfe-4c31-4f6e-a771-8d39f5a360cc"},"modified":"2021-12-12T21:22:43","modified_gmt":"2021-12-13T02:22:43","slug":"people-who-are-broken","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.blunt-therapy.com\/people-who-are-broken\/","title":{"rendered":"This is for All the People Who Are Broken"},"content":{"rendered":"<div id=\"ez-toc-container\" class=\"ez-toc-v2_0_65 counter-hierarchy ez-toc-counter ez-toc-custom ez-toc-container-direction\">\n<div class=\"ez-toc-title-container\">\n<p class=\"ez-toc-title \" >Table of Contents<\/p>\n<span class=\"ez-toc-title-toggle\"><\/span><\/div>\n<nav><ul class='ez-toc-list ez-toc-list-level-1 ' ><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-1\" href=\"https:\/\/www.blunt-therapy.com\/people-who-are-broken\/#Anger\" title=\"Anger\">Anger<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-2\" href=\"https:\/\/www.blunt-therapy.com\/people-who-are-broken\/#Trauma\" title=\"Trauma\">Trauma<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-3\" href=\"https:\/\/www.blunt-therapy.com\/people-who-are-broken\/#Betrayal\" title=\"Betrayal\">Betrayal<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-4\" href=\"https:\/\/www.blunt-therapy.com\/people-who-are-broken\/#The_People_Who_Are_Broken\" title=\"The People Who Are Broken\">The People Who Are Broken<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/nav><\/div>\n\n<p>This is for all the people who are broken. You know who you are. We all have the same look in our eyes. You know the one. It\u2019s like if sadness could stare at nothing. I\u2019ll bet you know it well.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Here we go.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\"><figure class=\"aligncenter size-full is-resized\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"data:image\/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP\/\/\/yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7\" data-src=\"https:\/\/www.blunt-therapy.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/42-2.jpg\" alt=\"This Is For All the People Who Are Broken\" class=\"wp-image-35931 lazyload\" width=\"400\" height=\"600\"\/><noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/www.blunt-therapy.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/42-2.jpg\" alt=\"This Is For All the People Who Are Broken\" class=\"wp-image-35931 lazyload\" width=\"400\" height=\"600\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.blunt-therapy.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/42-2.jpg 1000w, https:\/\/www.blunt-therapy.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/42-2-83x125.jpg 83w, https:\/\/www.blunt-therapy.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/42-2-200x300.jpg 200w, https:\/\/www.blunt-therapy.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/42-2-150x225.jpg 150w, https:\/\/www.blunt-therapy.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/42-2-768x1152.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 400px) 100vw, 400px\" \/><\/noscript><figcaption>This is for All the People Who Are Broken<\/figcaption><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-ub-styled-box ub-styled-box ub-notification-box\" id=\"ub-styled-box-e7a4310e-b0a5-4f80-8e49-444749f64e40\">\n\n\n<p id=\"ub-styled-box-notification-content-\">Trigger warning: I&#8217;m about to talk about some serious things, like suicide and child abuse. Please proceed with caution.<\/p>\n\n\n<\/div>\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Anger\"><\/span><strong>Anger<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>I have been told by those who know me that I can be an ass. That\u2019s fair; I own that. It\u2019s not my defining trait, but sometimes it\u2019s true.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Once I was happy and personable and eager to please. But a failed career, a bankruptcy, a divorce, and a dozen years of depression and <a class=\"wpil_keyword_link\" href=\"https:\/\/www.blunt-therapy.com\/therapists-share-their-thoughts-on-suicide\/\" title=\"suicidal ideation\" data-wpil-keyword-link=\"linked\">suicidal ideation<\/a> has dulled the light in my eyes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I get defensive easily. I\u2019m reactive. I take things personally. I get triggered. I\u2019ll bet you can relate.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Sometimes I get angry. Sometimes I get sad. Sometimes I struggle with thoughts of <a class=\"wpil_keyword_link\" href=\"https:\/\/www.blunt-therapy.com\/suicide-in-the-united-states\/\" title=\"suicide\" data-wpil-keyword-link=\"linked\">suicide<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I live in a small town, hundreds of miles away from my family. I have friends here and there, but you know how it is when you\u2019re past a certain age and still single.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>All the people I know are married, or they have kids, or they\u2019re married and have kids. They only have time for themselves.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Me, I have plenty of time for others. It\u2019s just that nobody wants it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I don\u2019t smile as much as I used to. I am quick to anger. My sarcasm has an edge to it. I think a lot about getting even.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I\u2019ve lost my sense of humor\u200a\u2014\u200amy old one, anyway. It\u2019s darker now. Bitter.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Sometimes I can\u2019t sleep. The weight of the world makes it difficult to breathe.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I\u2019ll bet you can relate.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\"><p>Sometimes I wanna kill, Sometimes I wanna die, Sometimes I wanna destroy, Sometimes I wanna cry, Sometimes I could get even, Sometimes I could give up, Sometimes I could give, Sometimes I never give a fuck \u200a<\/p><cite> Guns N\u2019 Roses, &#8220;Don&#8217;t Damn Me.&#8221;<\/cite><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\"><figure class=\"aligncenter is-resized\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"lazyload\" src=\"data:image\/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP\/\/\/yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7\" data-src=\"https:\/\/www.blunt-therapy.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/ian-espinosa-rX12B5uX7QM-unsplash-1.jpg\" alt=\"this is for the people who are broken\" width=\"665\" height=\"266\"\/><noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"lazyload\" src=\"https:\/\/www.blunt-therapy.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/ian-espinosa-rX12B5uX7QM-unsplash-1.jpg\" alt=\"this is for the people who are broken\" width=\"665\" height=\"266\"\/><\/noscript><figcaption>Courtesy, <a rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" href=\"http:\/\/www.unsplash.com\/\" target=\"_blank\">Unsplash<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Trauma\"><\/span>Trauma<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Over the past decade, I\u2019ve seen some terrible things. I\u2019ve been a first responder. I\u2019m now a licensed <a href=\"https:\/\/www.blunt-therapy.com\/resources\/mental-health-websites\/\">mental health<\/a> counselor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Movies get my job all wrong. Some folks do have cushy jobs in air-conditioned offices with comfortable couches. But most of us work in the trenches.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If you look hard enough, you can see bodies for miles and miles. They don\u2019t even know they are dead.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I worked with a 5-year-old girl one time who had been raped so badly by <a rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" href=\"https:\/\/www.blunt-therapy.com\/toxic-parenting\/\" class=\"rank-math-link\">her family members<\/a> that she couldn\u2019t help but shit and piss everywhere she went.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I\u2019d visit her in the foster home and she\u2019d sit on my knee. She liked to show me her dolls. She liked to play with them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Years ago, during my first visit at a home with a troubled 14-year-old girl, she confessed to me that she was planning to kill herself later that night. She had already written a note.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Later, she gave me the noose she had made and started crying. \u201cWill you let me help you?\u201d I asked her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I\u2019ve got dozens of stories. So many broken lives, so many broken people. I see their faces at night in my dreams.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Bad things happen to good people all the time. I can accept that. The academic part of my brain can process that reality.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>But it\u2019s different when it\u2019s a child. Nothing prepares you for it. Maybe it should all be the same. But it isn\u2019t.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Trauma, it seems, is contagious. You can catch it just as easily as a cold. It just stays with you longer.<\/p>\n\n\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\"><p>When you are with me I&#8217;m free<br> I&#8217;m careless, I believe<br> Above all the others we&#8217;ll fly<br> This brings tears to my eyes<br> My Sacrifice <\/p><cite> &#8211; Creed, &#8220;My Sacrifice&#8221; <\/cite><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\"><figure class=\"aligncenter is-resized\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"data:image\/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP\/\/\/yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7\" data-src=\"https:\/\/www.blunt-therapy.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/yuris-alhumaydy-mSXMHkgRs8s-unsplash-2.jpg\" alt=\"fo the people who are broken\" class=\"wp-image-13466 lazyload\" width=\"766\" height=\"306\"\/><noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/www.blunt-therapy.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/yuris-alhumaydy-mSXMHkgRs8s-unsplash-2.jpg\" alt=\"fo the people who are broken\" class=\"wp-image-13466 lazyload\" width=\"766\" height=\"306\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.blunt-therapy.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/yuris-alhumaydy-mSXMHkgRs8s-unsplash-2.jpg 999w, https:\/\/www.blunt-therapy.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/yuris-alhumaydy-mSXMHkgRs8s-unsplash-2-400x160.jpg 400w, https:\/\/www.blunt-therapy.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/yuris-alhumaydy-mSXMHkgRs8s-unsplash-2-768x308.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 766px) 100vw, 766px\" \/><\/noscript><figcaption>Courtesy, <a rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" href=\"http:\/\/www.unsplash.com\/\" target=\"_blank\">Unsplash<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Betrayal\"><\/span>Betrayal<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Have you ever been at the bottom of such a deep dark hole that you found yourself screaming for help, only to have your words come back at you like an echo?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Have you ever felt so isolated and alone that it seemed like your friends had met behind your back and decided to shut you out of their lives?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I\u2019ll bet you have. You\u2019re one of the people who are broken.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>After a certain age, we seem to collect tragedies. We carry them with us, these grotesque souvenirs of our various failures.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I keep mine close to me. They keep me warm at night.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Maybe you\u2019re young\u200a\u2014\u200aunder 30, say\u200a\u2014\u200aand you haven\u2019t had anything horrible happen to you yet.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Don\u2019t worry, you will.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It\u2019s not like anyone expects terrible shit to happen. It\u2019s not like people anticipate <a href=\"https:\/\/www.blunt-therapy.com\/four-horsemen-of-relationships\/\">divorce<\/a>, or miscarriages, or job losses, or trauma.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It\u2019s not like we plan for those things.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>A few weeks ago, I was chatting with a man in his mid-twenties. He was a client once upon a time. He was telling me about his failing marriage.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cWe can\u2019t get divorced right now,\u201d he said. \u201cFinancially, it would devastate us.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>As if most people save up for the experience.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>He was young, too. He\u2019ll find out the hard way. We all do.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>One day I came home to my four-bedroom waterfront home. I had been out of state visiting my parents.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>My fianc\u00e9 and my six-year-old stepson had stayed home that weekend so she could do school work.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Except that\u2019s not what she was doing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I came home on a Sunday evening to find moving boxes. Clothes. The bed. Furniture. Everything in boxes. My dog met me at the door.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Heidi\u200a\u2014\u200amy dog\u200a\u2014\u200alooked so embarrassed. Her tail was kind of cocked to one side and she approached me sheepishly, as if it were her fault that my fianc\u00e9 had ended things without telling me.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>We must have sat on the living room floor for hours before either one of us moved.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>In the morning, the movers knocked on the door, a full hour before the coward I had been engaged to arrived to meet them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cWhere do we start?\u201d the mover asked me.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Our home backed up to a lake. \u201cJust put it all in there,\u201d I said.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\"><p>What I have to do, I have to catch everybody if they start to go over the cliff\u200a\u2014\u200aI mean if they\u2019re running and they don\u2019t look where they\u2019re going I have to come out from somewhere and catch them. that\u2019s all I\u2019d do all day. I\u2019d just be the catcher in the rye and all. I know it\u2019s crazy, but that\u2019s the only thing I\u2019d really like to be. I know it\u2019s crazy.\u2019<\/p><cite>  <strong>\u200a\u2014\u200a<em>J.D. Salinger<\/em><\/strong>, &#8220;Catcher in the Rye&#8221; <\/cite><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\"><figure class=\"aligncenter is-resized\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"data:image\/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP\/\/\/yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7\" data-src=\"https:\/\/www.blunt-therapy.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/dan-meyers-hluOJZjLVXc-unsplash-1-1-e1570643797990.jpg\" alt=\"Psychological First Aid\" class=\"wp-image-14686 lazyload\" width=\"768\" height=\"348\"\/><noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/www.blunt-therapy.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/dan-meyers-hluOJZjLVXc-unsplash-1-1-e1570643797990.jpg\" alt=\"Psychological First Aid\" class=\"wp-image-14686 lazyload\" width=\"768\" height=\"348\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.blunt-therapy.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/dan-meyers-hluOJZjLVXc-unsplash-1-1-e1570643797990.jpg 919w, https:\/\/www.blunt-therapy.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/dan-meyers-hluOJZjLVXc-unsplash-1-1-e1570643797990-200x91.jpg 200w, https:\/\/www.blunt-therapy.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/dan-meyers-hluOJZjLVXc-unsplash-1-1-e1570643797990-400x182.jpg 400w, https:\/\/www.blunt-therapy.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/dan-meyers-hluOJZjLVXc-unsplash-1-1-e1570643797990-150x68.jpg 150w, https:\/\/www.blunt-therapy.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/dan-meyers-hluOJZjLVXc-unsplash-1-1-e1570643797990-768x348.jpg 768w, https:\/\/www.blunt-therapy.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/dan-meyers-hluOJZjLVXc-unsplash-1-1-e1570643797990-397x180.jpg 397w, https:\/\/www.blunt-therapy.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/dan-meyers-hluOJZjLVXc-unsplash-1-1-e1570643797990-176x80.jpg 176w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 768px) 100vw, 768px\" \/><\/noscript><figcaption>Courtesy, <a href=\"http:\/\/www.unsplash.com\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Unsplash<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"The_People_Who_Are_Broken\"><\/span>The People Who Are Broken<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>I have a tough time relating to people who have their shit together. I\u2019m more comfortable with the people who are broken. I understand where they are coming from. They\u2019re just so much more interesting to me than \u201cnormal\u201d people. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Normal people are alien to me. They talk about things that don\u2019t hold my interest. Vacations and stock options and preschool shopping. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I prefer to hear about <a href=\"https:\/\/www.blunt-therapy.com\/recognize-abusive-relationships\/\">conflict<\/a>. I\u2019d rather talk about loss.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Everyone deals with trauma. It\u2019s just a matter of degree and duration and frequency. Some get more than their share, others less. It is the way of things.<\/p>\n\n\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Children tend to get the raw end of the deal.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If their parents get divorced, they tend to blame themselves. If their parents die, they tend to blame themselves.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If their parents beat them, they tend to blame themselves for that, too.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>So many broken adults got that way because of <a rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" class=\"rank-math-link\" href=\"https:\/\/www.blunt-therapy.com\/toxic-parenting\/\"><strong>things that happened to them<\/strong><\/a> when they were children.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The funny thing about trauma is that it is selective in who it affects. This is why some men return from war and go onto lead productive lives, and others shoot themselves in the head.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It\u2019s all about perception. It\u2019s not how we perceive the event so much as how we perceive our role in it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Trauma, like pressure, turns some into diamonds and others into dust. Our experiences can turn us into better people\u200a\u2014\u200aif they don\u2019t end up killing us in the process.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If you are one of the people who are broken, you don\u2019t have to be forever. People heal. People bounce back.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Resilience is the natural and normal outcome of trauma. It just doesn\u2019t feel like it until it does.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The road to recovery begins with the desire to get better. You\u2019ll start out slow, barely crawling, but one day you\u2019ll wake up and realize that every step you have taken is a step in the right direction.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Just keep going.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>If you enjoyed this story, and maybe are looking to work on your own trauma, I suggest you look into <a class=\"wpil_keyword_link\" href=\"https:\/\/www.blunt-therapy.com\/betterhelp-counseling-review\/\" title=\"online counseling\" data-wpil-keyword-link=\"linked\">online counseling<\/a> programs. 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