{"id":25778,"date":"2020-09-06T08:00:51","date_gmt":"2020-09-06T12:00:51","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.blunt-therapy.com\/?p=25778"},"modified":"2023-04-03T13:24:22","modified_gmt":"2023-04-03T17:24:22","slug":"how-to-raise-emotionally-intelligent-kids","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.blunt-therapy.com\/how-to-raise-emotionally-intelligent-kids\/","title":{"rendered":"5 Ways Parents Can Raise Emotionally Intelligent Kids"},"content":{"rendered":"<div id=\"ez-toc-container\" class=\"ez-toc-v2_0_65 counter-hierarchy ez-toc-counter ez-toc-custom ez-toc-container-direction\">\n<div class=\"ez-toc-title-container\">\n<p class=\"ez-toc-title \" >Table of Contents<\/p>\n<span class=\"ez-toc-title-toggle\"><\/span><\/div>\n<nav><ul class='ez-toc-list ez-toc-list-level-1 ' ><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-1\" href=\"https:\/\/www.blunt-therapy.com\/how-to-raise-emotionally-intelligent-kids\/#1_Listen_to_them_and_accept_them_for_who_they_are\" title=\"1. Listen to them and accept them for who they are.\">1. Listen to them and accept them for who they are.<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-2\" href=\"https:\/\/www.blunt-therapy.com\/how-to-raise-emotionally-intelligent-kids\/#2_Teach_them_how_to_cope\" title=\"2. Teach them how to cope.\">2. Teach them how to cope.<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-3\" href=\"https:\/\/www.blunt-therapy.com\/how-to-raise-emotionally-intelligent-kids\/#3_Get_physical\" title=\"3. Get physical.\">3. Get physical.<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-4\" href=\"https:\/\/www.blunt-therapy.com\/how-to-raise-emotionally-intelligent-kids\/#4_Be_consistent\" title=\"4. Be consistent.\">4. Be consistent.<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-5\" href=\"https:\/\/www.blunt-therapy.com\/how-to-raise-emotionally-intelligent-kids\/#5_Learn_different_perspectives\" title=\"5. Learn different perspectives.\">5. Learn different perspectives.<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-6\" href=\"https:\/\/www.blunt-therapy.com\/how-to-raise-emotionally-intelligent-kids\/#Final_Thoughts\" title=\"Final Thoughts\">Final Thoughts<\/a><ul class='ez-toc-list-level-3' ><li class='ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-7\" href=\"https:\/\/www.blunt-therapy.com\/how-to-raise-emotionally-intelligent-kids\/#Further_Reading\" title=\"Further Reading\">Further Reading<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/li><\/ul><\/nav><\/div>\n\n<p>We all want our children to grow up to be highly intelligent. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>However, one of the most important skills they can develop during childhood is how to embrace and understand their emotions. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Emotionally intelligent kids are not just smart. They are <em>smart about feelings<\/em>, both theirs and other people&#8217;s. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>As adults, many of us still struggle to manage our emotions in a healthy way. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>We deal with issues like anger, anxiety, or depression. Many of us never learned how to be emotionally intelligent kids, so we carried that deficit into adulthood.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The good news is your children don&#8217;t have to suffer the same fate. You can help your child develop emotional intelligence early, so they\u2019ll have an easier time managing it later.<\/p>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter size-full is-resized\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"data:image\/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP\/\/\/yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7\" data-src=\"https:\/\/www.blunt-therapy.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/raise-emotionally-intelligent-kids.jpg\" alt=\"5 Ways Parents Can Raise Emotionally Intelligent Kids\" class=\"wp-image-36195 lazyload\" width=\"400\" height=\"600\"\/><noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/www.blunt-therapy.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/raise-emotionally-intelligent-kids.jpg\" alt=\"5 Ways Parents Can Raise Emotionally Intelligent Kids\" class=\"wp-image-36195 lazyload\" width=\"400\" height=\"600\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.blunt-therapy.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/raise-emotionally-intelligent-kids.jpg 1000w, https:\/\/www.blunt-therapy.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/raise-emotionally-intelligent-kids-83x125.jpg 83w, https:\/\/www.blunt-therapy.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/raise-emotionally-intelligent-kids-200x300.jpg 200w, https:\/\/www.blunt-therapy.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/raise-emotionally-intelligent-kids-150x225.jpg 150w, https:\/\/www.blunt-therapy.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/raise-emotionally-intelligent-kids-768x1152.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 400px) 100vw, 400px\" \/><\/noscript><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\">5 Ways Parents Can Raise Emotionally Intelligent Kids<\/figcaption><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"1_Listen_to_them_and_accept_them_for_who_they_are\"><\/span>1. Listen to them and accept them for who they are.<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>It all starts with you. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Your kids will thrive emotionally, mentally, and physically if they know you accept them for who they are. You love them unconditionally, but they need to know that. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Even when they make mistakes, you need to be there to support them, which will give them the self confidence they need to move on and learn from it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It\u2019s equally important to listen to them when they want to share their emotions with you. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Praise them for sharing them in an acceptable way like talking to you instead of throwing a fit. Acknowledge how they feel and give them suggestions for how to cope with those feelings.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Just like you enjoy having friends at your side when you need to vent, it\u2019s valuable for a child to have someone they know they can trust when they need an outlet.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"2_Teach_them_how_to_cope\"><\/span>2. Teach them how to cope.<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>After you listen and accept, it\u2019s important to help them cope with their emotions. Emotions are raw and overwhelming. Your child won\u2019t quite know how to handle them yet, and they need your experience to help them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Once they learn to recognize and express their emotions in a healthy way, they can begin to deal with them. Different techniques will work for different children, so encourage them to explore some options like:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul>\n<li>Listening to soothing music to recuperate<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Doing deep breathing exercises to <a class=\"wpil_keyword_link \" href=\"https:\/\/www.blunt-therapy.com\/can-cbd-relieve-anxiety\/\"  title=\"calm down\" data-wpil-keyword-link=\"linked\">calm down<\/a><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Coloring in a coloring book to relieve stress<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Putting on lotions or essential oils with lavender to relax<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Cuddling with a lovey and resting for a few minutes<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"3_Get_physical\"><\/span>3. Get physical.<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>There are a couple of ways to tackle this suggestion. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It\u2019s incredibly important to emphasize your child\u2019s physical health. Being in healthy <a href=\"https:\/\/www.blunt-therapy.com\/benefits-of-hypnotherapy\/\">physical condition can also support emotional and mental<\/a> support. Make sure your child gets enough physical <a href=\"https:\/\/www.blunt-therapy.com\/how-to-boost-your-mental-health\/\">exercise<\/a> every day and eats a balanced diet.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Offer them great places to play both inside and outside. Setting up a playroom with all of their toys will give them a great place to explore on their own or with you. You can also give them an outdoor space with playhouses or playsets.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>A lack of physical activity is much less likely to be a problem for younger children because their metabolism is so high and they have so much energy. As your child gets older, it will be more important that you encourage extra activity throughout the day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>However, getting your child involved in sports, especially team sports, can help develop and strengthen their emotional intelligence. There\u2019s really no nice way to say this, but they\u2019re going to lose. It happens.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>How they react to that loss is the important thing to focus on. They need to learn to accept their losses, congratulate the winner, and move on. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>There\u2019s nothing wrong with continuing to practice and improve so they don\u2019t lose again, but they won\u2019t always be the best at everything, and it\u2019s better to learn that now.<\/p>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter size-large\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"data:image\/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP\/\/\/yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7\" data-src=\"https:\/\/www.blunt-therapy.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/emotionally-intelligent-kids-together-450x300.png\" alt=\"emotionally intelligent kids\" class=\"wp-image-25779 lazyload\"\/><noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"450\" height=\"300\" src=\"https:\/\/www.blunt-therapy.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/emotionally-intelligent-kids-together-450x300.png\" alt=\"emotionally intelligent kids\" class=\"wp-image-25779 lazyload\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.blunt-therapy.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/emotionally-intelligent-kids-together-450x300.png 450w, https:\/\/www.blunt-therapy.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/emotionally-intelligent-kids-together-300x200.png 300w, https:\/\/www.blunt-therapy.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/emotionally-intelligent-kids-together-150x100.png 150w, https:\/\/www.blunt-therapy.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/emotionally-intelligent-kids-together.png 600w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 450px) 100vw, 450px\" \/><\/noscript><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"4_Be_consistent\"><\/span>4. Be consistent.<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Discipline is never fun, but it\u2019s important that you\u2019re consistent in setting boundaries and offering appropriate consequences when those boundaries are crossed. Your child will develop a sense of right and wrong, which goes a long way for strengthening their emotional intelligence.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>They need to know now what\u2019s considered unacceptable behavior before they harm themselves or others. Understanding what harms others and being able to set those personal limits will establish honesty and trust.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"5_Learn_different_perspectives\"><\/span>5. Learn different perspectives.<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Broadening your child\u2019s horizons by exploring differences of opinion, religion, or culture can help your child develop empathy and understanding for others. It can also help them to think more openly about problems in their world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>You can also help them explore different perspectives by encouraging critical thinking and problem solving. It may help spark some creativity as they learn that there\u2019s more than one way to do things.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Final_Thoughts\"><\/span>Final Thoughts<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Your child won\u2019t always be able to process their emotions appropriately. They\u2019ll still throw fits, have emotional outbursts, or break down sometimes. With you there to support them, listen, encourage, and offer suggestions, they will recover quickly and learn something new each time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>And because a high emotional intelligence has been linked to a high IQ, this is something you may want to strive for early to set your child up for success later. They\u2019ll fall all along the way, but be better for knowing you\u2019re there through it all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-embed is-type-video is-provider-youtube wp-block-embed-youtube wp-embed-aspect-16-9 wp-has-aspect-ratio\"><div class=\"wp-block-embed__wrapper\">\n<iframe class=\"lazyload\" title=\"How To Raise Emotionally Intelligent Children | Lael Stone | TEDxDocklands\" width=\"1170\" height=\"658\" data-src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/6fL09e8Tm9c?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe>\n<\/div><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\">How To Raise Emotionally Intelligent Kids. Courtesy, TedX.<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Further_Reading\"><\/span>Further Reading<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<ul>\n<li><a aria-label=\"3 Do\u2019s and Don\u2019ts for Raising Emotionally Intelligent Kids (opens in a new tab)\" class=\"rank-math-link\" href=\"https:\/\/www.gottman.com\/blog\/3-dos-donts-raising-emotionally-intelligent-kids\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">3 Do\u2019s and Don\u2019ts for Raising Emotionally Intelligent Kids<\/a><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><a aria-label=\"How to Raise an Emotionally Intelligent Child (opens in a new tab)\" class=\"rank-math-link\" href=\"https:\/\/www.verywellfamily.com\/tips-for-raising-an-emotionally-intelligent-child-4157946\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">How to Raise an Emotionally Intelligent Child<\/a><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><a aria-label=\"This Is How To Raise Emotionally Intelligent Kids: 5 Secrets From Research (opens in a new tab)\" class=\"rank-math-link\" href=\"https:\/\/www.bakadesuyo.com\/2018\/09\/emotionally-intelligent-kids\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">This Is How To Raise Emotionally Intelligent Kids: 5 Secrets From Research<\/a><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><a aria-label=\"EQ vs IQ: Why emotional intelligence will take your kid further in life (opens in a new tab)\" class=\"rank-math-link\" href=\"https:\/\/www.todaysparent.com\/kids\/kids-health\/eq-vs-iq-why-emotional-intelligence-will-take-kids-farther-in-life\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">EQ vs IQ: Why emotional intelligence will take your kid further in life<\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<section class=\"wp-block-uagb-section uagb-section__wrap uagb-section__background-color uagb-block-540ad93d\"><div class=\"uagb-section__overlay\"><\/div><div class=\"uagb-section__inner-wrap\">\n<div class=\"wp-block-uagb-call-to-action uagb-block-73105e3b wp-block-button\"><div class=\"uagb-cta__wrap\"><h5 class=\"uagb-cta__title\">Private Practice  with No Overhead and No Shortage of Clients.<br><\/h5><p class=\"uagb-cta__desc\">Join\u00a0the more than 34,000 full and part-time therapists who are earning more with BetterHelp! 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