{"id":23520,"date":"2020-04-22T05:03:59","date_gmt":"2020-04-22T09:03:59","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.blunt-therapy.com\/?p=23520---c23ea159-d9c5-49b6-9df2-dd6ee0395f86"},"modified":"2021-12-14T20:16:40","modified_gmt":"2021-12-15T01:16:40","slug":"my-ex-has-narcissistic-personality-disorder","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.blunt-therapy.com\/my-ex-has-narcissistic-personality-disorder\/","title":{"rendered":"Why Your Ex isn&#8217;t A Narcissist (And You Should Stop Saying He Is)"},"content":{"rendered":"<div id=\"ez-toc-container\" class=\"ez-toc-v2_0_65 counter-hierarchy ez-toc-counter ez-toc-custom ez-toc-container-direction\">\n<div class=\"ez-toc-title-container\">\n<p class=\"ez-toc-title \" >Table of Contents<\/p>\n<span class=\"ez-toc-title-toggle\"><\/span><\/div>\n<nav><ul class='ez-toc-list ez-toc-list-level-1 ' ><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-1\" href=\"https:\/\/www.blunt-therapy.com\/my-ex-has-narcissistic-personality-disorder\/#Why_You_Shouldnt_Diagnose_Your_Ex_With_Narcissistic_Personality_Disorder\" title=\"Why You Shouldn&#8217;t Diagnose Your Ex With Narcissistic Personality Disorder\">Why You Shouldn&#8217;t Diagnose Your Ex With Narcissistic Personality Disorder<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-2\" href=\"https:\/\/www.blunt-therapy.com\/my-ex-has-narcissistic-personality-disorder\/#Save_The_Diagnosis_For_The_Clinicians\" title=\"Save The Diagnosis For The Clinicians\">Save The Diagnosis For The Clinicians<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-3\" href=\"https:\/\/www.blunt-therapy.com\/my-ex-has-narcissistic-personality-disorder\/#Bloggers_Make_The_Problem_A_Lot_Worse\" title=\"Bloggers Make The Problem A Lot Worse\">Bloggers Make The Problem A Lot Worse<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-4\" href=\"https:\/\/www.blunt-therapy.com\/my-ex-has-narcissistic-personality-disorder\/#Final_Thoughts\" title=\"Final Thoughts\">Final Thoughts<\/a><ul class='ez-toc-list-level-3' ><li class='ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-5\" href=\"https:\/\/www.blunt-therapy.com\/my-ex-has-narcissistic-personality-disorder\/#References\" title=\"References\">References<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/li><\/ul><\/nav><\/div>\n\n<p>The topic of narcissism has skyrocketed in popularity in recent years.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It&#8217;s easy to blame Trump, but the truth is that we\u2019ve been moving in that direction since at least 2011 when the novel 50 Shades of Grey first introduced a Hollywoodized version of <strong>Narcissistic Personality Disorder<\/strong> to tweens.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>A decade later, you can\u2019t toss a dead squirrel without hitting dozens of articles (like <a href=\"https:\/\/medium.com\/love-emma\/signs-your-new-boyfriend-might-be-a-narcissist-e55b2e6d7e2b\" target=\"_blank\" aria-label=\"this one (opens in a new tab)\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" class=\"rank-math-link\">this one<\/a>), memes, and videos from self-proclaimed \u201cNarcissistic Abuse Recovery\u201d experts who seek to shame, vilify, and expose the narcissist for what he truly is.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It\u2019s strange. We live in a world that is hella woke, uber-politically correct, and socially just, yet it\u2019s still okay and even encouraged to excoriate men (and sometimes women) who exhibit the criteria of Narcissistic <a class=\"wpil_keyword_link\" href=\"https:\/\/www.blunt-therapy.com\/borderline-personality-disorder\/\" title=\"Personality Disorder\" data-wpil-keyword-link=\"linked\">Personality Disorder<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\"><figure class=\"aligncenter size-full is-resized\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"data:image\/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP\/\/\/yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7\" data-src=\"https:\/\/www.blunt-therapy.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/And-You-Should-Stop-Saying-He-Is.jpg\" alt=\"(And You Should Stop Saying He Is) Narcissistic Personality Disorder\" class=\"wp-image-34289 lazyload\" width=\"400\" height=\"600\"\/><noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/www.blunt-therapy.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/And-You-Should-Stop-Saying-He-Is.jpg\" alt=\"(And You Should Stop Saying He Is) Narcissistic Personality Disorder\" class=\"wp-image-34289 lazyload\" width=\"400\" height=\"600\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.blunt-therapy.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/And-You-Should-Stop-Saying-He-Is.jpg 1000w, https:\/\/www.blunt-therapy.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/And-You-Should-Stop-Saying-He-Is-83x125.jpg 83w, https:\/\/www.blunt-therapy.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/And-You-Should-Stop-Saying-He-Is-200x300.jpg 200w, https:\/\/www.blunt-therapy.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/And-You-Should-Stop-Saying-He-Is-150x225.jpg 150w, https:\/\/www.blunt-therapy.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/And-You-Should-Stop-Saying-He-Is-768x1152.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 400px) 100vw, 400px\" \/><\/noscript><figcaption>Why You Should Stop Saying Your Ex Has Narcissistic Personality Disorder<\/figcaption><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Why_You_Shouldnt_Diagnose_Your_Ex_With_Narcissistic_Personality_Disorder\"><\/span>Why You Shouldn&#8217;t Diagnose Your Ex With Narcissistic Personality Disorder<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p><br>Setting aside the fact that NPD is a mental disorder <a aria-label=\"deeply rooted in childhood trauma (opens in a new tab)\" class=\"rank-math-link\" href=\"https:\/\/onlinelibrary.wiley.com\/doi\/abs\/10.1002\/1097-4679%28199509%2951%3A5%3C658%3A%3AAID-JCLP2270510511%3E3.0.CO%3B2-N\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">deeply rooted in childhood trauma<\/a>\u2014 is this really socially acceptable behavior? Can you think of any other mental health condition that is vilified so freely?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Look, I get it. <a class=\"wpil_keyword_link\" href=\"https:\/\/www.blunt-therapy.com\/how-to-gray-rock-method-a-narcissist\/\" title=\"Narcissists\" data-wpil-keyword-link=\"linked\">Narcissists<\/a> can be awful. Their reputations are well-earned. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>But there is a dangerous and slippery slope forming here, and we should all be a little less eager to go sliding off of it without considering the consequences.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The slope in question is the normalization of attacks on the mentally ill. And while my focus thus far has been on Narcissistic Personality Disorder, my larger argument is this:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>An attack on one type of mental disorder is an attack on all types of mental disorders.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>While people with Narcissistic Personality Disorder are capable of some truly terrible behaviors, they are nonetheless people who suffer from a mental illness that is largely beyond their control.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Those with a different point of view might take issue with what I have just said. NPD is a&nbsp;<em>personality&nbsp;disorder, they<\/em> would say. That\u2019s totally different than a mental disorder like depression.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>But they\u2019d be wrong. The American Psychiatric Association classifies personality disorders as a&nbsp;<em>type&nbsp;<\/em>of mental disorder.&nbsp;<a href=\"https:\/\/www.mayoclinic.org\/diseases-conditions\/personality-disorders\/symptoms-causes\/syc-20354463\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">The Mayo Clinic<\/a>&nbsp;notes this as well, and&nbsp;<a href=\"https:\/\/www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov\/pubmed\/11823318\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">research<\/a>&nbsp;published in the&nbsp;<em>British Journal of Psychiatry<\/em>&nbsp;notes that their distinction is arbitrary.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>So, while people with Narcissistic Personality Disorder are capable of some truly terrible behaviors, they are nonetheless people who suffer from a mental illness that is largely beyond their control.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Save_The_Diagnosis_For_The_Clinicians\"><\/span>Save The Diagnosis For The Clinicians<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>I\u2019m certainly not here to stand up for narcissists. That\u2019s not the point. I\u2019m also not here to justify their abusive behavior or their disregard for others. People should be called out for awful behavior. People should be held accountable.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>But when laypeople use clinical terminology to describe ex-lovers (which happens all the time), it comes off as more than a little hypocritical.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>When <a class=\"wpil_keyword_link\" data-wpil=\"url\" href=\"https:\/\/www.blunt-therapy.com\/category\/relationships\/\" title=\"relationships\" data-wpil-keyword-link=\"linked\">relationships<\/a> end, we can\u2019t help but want to find external causes for it. That way, we don\u2019t have to look at our own role. It\u2019s reassuring to dismiss an ex as a \u201cnarcissist.\u201d <a href=\"https:\/\/www.blunt-therapy.com\/signs-of-an-emotionally-abusive-relationship\/\" class=\"rank-math-link\">They were abusive<\/a> and they cheated and they lied so they must have Narcissistic Personality Disorder!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Right?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Actually, no. At least, not in most cases. They could just be a <a aria-label=\"garden variety jerk (opens in a new tab)\" href=\"https:\/\/www.bodyandsoul.com.au\/relationships\/dating-advice\/is-your-ex-really-a-narcissist-or-just-a-dick\/news-story\/bdc0fab76d788130709b63c36f6b5117\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" class=\"rank-math-link\">garden variety jerk<\/a>. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>They might be perfectly fine in other relationships but for whatever reason, they were toxic in yours. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>You&#8217;ll probably never know and it\u2019s arrogant to think you will.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>But the biggest reason why I say no is that most people don&#8217;t understand how <a href=\"https:\/\/www.blunt-therapy.com\/the-problem-with-mental-health-self-diagnosis\/\" class=\"rank-math-link\">clinical diagnosis<\/a> works.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>For one thing, you don&#8217;t just flip open the DSM5 and start assigning clinical criteria to people you&#8217;ve slept with. That\u2019s just silly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>You&#8217;re not objective, you&#8217;re not accounting for <a href=\"https:\/\/www.blunt-therapy.com\/distorted-thinking-and-cognitive-distortions\/\" class=\"rank-math-link\">confirmation bias<\/a>, and you don\u2019t have any training. If you did, you&#8217;d know not to do it in the first place.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-embed is-type-video is-provider-youtube wp-block-embed-youtube wp-embed-aspect-16-9 wp-has-aspect-ratio\"><div class=\"wp-block-embed__wrapper\">\n<iframe class=\"lazyload\" title=\"What is NOT A Narcissist: Overusing The Word &quot;Narcissist&quot;\" width=\"1170\" height=\"658\" data-src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/wHUUxPyNDLw?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe>\n<\/div><figcaption>What is NOT A Narcissist: Overusing The Word &#8220;Narcissist&#8221;. Courtesy, YouTube.<br><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Bloggers_Make_The_Problem_A_Lot_Worse\"><\/span>Bloggers Make The Problem A Lot Worse<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>I&#8217;ve read tons of articles online where writers diagnose their exes with Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Never once have I seen them explore how they contributed to the downfall of their relationship. Not once. Their analysis is entirely one-sided.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It\u2019s always the same story. I was minding my own business when all of a sudden this man (or sometimes a woman) rolled into my life, love-bombed me, and the next thing I know I was embroiled in a toxic cacophony of <a href=\"https:\/\/www.blunt-therapy.com\/signs-of-an-emotionally-abusive-relationship\/\" class=\"rank-math-link\">gaslighting and dysfunction<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The victim\u2019s mentality at work in so many of these articles is disturbing, to say the least. It\u2019s such an unhealthy way to think about things.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Of course, the counter to my argument is this \u2014 why <em>shouldn\u2019t <\/em>they write about narcissistic exes? They are performing a public service. Their words are a warning to each and every one of you about the dangers of dating that monster.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>So yes, people certainly have a right to write this stuff. And it is often the case that readers glean new insights about their own relationships by reading the cautionary tales of others.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>But it\u2019s still irresponsible, if for no other reason than the ethical quagmire that comes with diagnosing someone you used to have sex with. A licensed professional would be called in front of a state board if they did that.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Final_Thoughts\"><\/span>Final Thoughts<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>The reason clinical diagnoses exist in the first place is to conceptualize the nature of a problem and to guide the treatment of it. They were never designed to be weaponized, nor were they created for laypeople to toss around the internet like confetti.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Does Narcissistic Personality Disorder exist? Of course. Does <a class=\"wpil_keyword_link\" href=\"https:\/\/www.blunt-therapy.com\/narcissistic-abuse-recovery\/\" title=\"narcissistic abuse\" data-wpil-keyword-link=\"linked\">narcissistic abuse<\/a> occur? Absolutely.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Just not in the numbers you&#8217;d think. Judging from all the articles and Facebook support groups and memes that devote themselves exclusively to this issue, it\u2019s easy to assume that we\u2019re dealing with a straight-up epidemic of narcissistic personality disorder. In reality, NPD affects about <a href=\"https:\/\/www.medscape.com\/answers\/1519417-101779\/what-is-the-prevalence-of-narcissistic-personality-disorder-npd-in-the-us\" target=\"_blank\" aria-label=\"0.5% of the population (opens in a new tab)\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" class=\"rank-math-link\">0.5% of the population<\/a>, or 1 out of every 200 people.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>That\u2019s pretty rare.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>By themselves, people are extraordinarily complicated. In relationships, people are even more impossible to understand. It\u2019s actually amazing that any of them last for more than a few months and it accounts for why so many of them <a href=\"https:\/\/www.blunt-therapy.com\/signs-its-time-to-end-a-relationship\/\" class=\"rank-math-link\">eventually fail<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>And when people we love hurt us, and when our <a href=\"https:\/\/www.blunt-therapy.com\/category\/relationships\/\">relationships<\/a> end, it\u2019s only natural to look for simple explanations to complicated problems that we will likely never understand.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Diagnostic labels only tell part of the story, and often that story is a work of pure fiction.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Going forward, if you are tempted to label an ex with a mental illness, consider the virtues of examining your role in the relationship\u2019s end as well. That is, after all, how we grow.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator\"\/>\n\n\n\n<p>If a recent breakup has left you confused, bitter, or feeling betrayed, consider the <strong>benefits of <a class=\"wpil_keyword_link\" href=\"https:\/\/www.blunt-therapy.com\/betterhelp-counseling-review\/\" title=\"online therapy\" data-wpil-keyword-link=\"linked\">online therapy<\/a><\/strong>. Sites like <strong><a aria-label=\"BetterHelp (opens in a new tab)\" href=\"https:\/\/www.betterhelp.com\/blunttherapy\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener nofollow sponsored\" class=\"rank-math-link\">BetterHelp<\/a> <\/strong>are affordable, confidential, and convenient alternatives to traditional face-to-face therapy. With either of these services, you&#8217;ll have access to your very own licensed therapist who is available via video, chat, or phone, all for a low monthly fee.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"References\"><\/span>References<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<ul><li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.psychologytoday.com\/us\/blog\/acquainted-the-night\/201912\/sorry-your-ex-probably-isnt-narcissist\" target=\"_blank\" aria-label=\" (opens in a new tab)\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" class=\"rank-math-link\">Sorry, But Your Ex Probably Isn&#8217;t a Narcissist<\/a><\/li><li><a href=\"https:\/\/the-toast.net\/2013\/12\/04\/your-ex-might-not-have-a-personality-disorder\/\" target=\"_blank\" aria-label=\" (opens in a new tab)\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" class=\"rank-math-link\">Your Ex Probably Doesn\u2019t Have A Personality Disorder<\/a><\/li><li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.lisathomsonlive.com\/narcissist-or-ahole-whats-the-difference\/\" target=\"_blank\" aria-label=\" (opens in a new tab)\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" class=\"rank-math-link\">NARCISSIST OR A**HOLE? KNOW THE DIFFERENCE<\/a><\/li><li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.divorcemag.com\/blog\/thought-ex-was-a-narcissist-maybe-im-one\" target=\"_blank\" aria-label=\" (opens in a new tab)\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" class=\"rank-math-link\">Reflecting After Divorce: Maybe I Was The Narcissist &amp; Not My Ex<\/a><\/li><li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.practicalintimacy.com\/ex-is-a-narcissist\/\" target=\"_blank\" aria-label=\" (opens in a new tab)\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" class=\"rank-math-link\">Think Your Ex Is A Narcissist? Chances Are They\u2019re Not\u2026<\/a><\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<section class=\"wp-block-uagb-section uagb-section__wrap uagb-section__background-color uagb-block-540ad93d\"><div class=\"uagb-section__overlay\"><\/div><div class=\"uagb-section__inner-wrap\">\n<div class=\"wp-block-uagb-call-to-action uagb-block-73105e3b wp-block-button\"><div class=\"uagb-cta__wrap\"><h5 class=\"uagb-cta__title\">Private Practice  with No Overhead and No Shortage of Clients.<br><\/h5><p class=\"uagb-cta__desc\">Join\u00a0the more than 34,000 full and part-time therapists who are earning more with BetterHelp! Supplement your income, or build your own practice from scratch. Bonuses &amp; Incentives for High Performers! <strong>Sponsored Advertisement<\/strong><\/p><\/div><div class=\"uagb-cta__buttons\"><a href=\"https:\/\/hasofferstracking.betterhelp.com\/aff_c?offer_id=20&amp;aff_id=1614\" class=\"uagb-cta__button-link-wrapper wp-block-button__link\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Join BetterHelp<\/a><\/div><\/div>\n<\/div><\/section>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>It&#8217;s become commonplace to attack narcissists on social media. But is it okay to attack people who suffer from a mental disorder they cannot control?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":34290,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_uag_custom_page_level_css":"","ub_ctt_via":"","_lmt_disableupdate":"no","_lmt_disable":"no","footnotes":""},"categories":[16],"tags":[25,17,859,52,809],"featured_image_src":"https:\/\/www.blunt-therapy.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/Why-Your-Ex-isnt-A-Narcissist-And-You-Should-Stop-Saying-He-Is.jpg","author_info":{"display_name":"Randy Withers, LCMHC","author_link":"https:\/\/www.blunt-therapy.com\/author\/randy-withers\/"},"modified_by":"Randy Withers, LCMHC","uagb_featured_image_src":{"full":["https:\/\/www.blunt-therapy.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/Why-Your-Ex-isnt-A-Narcissist-And-You-Should-Stop-Saying-He-Is.jpg",800,450,false],"thumbnail":["https:\/\/www.blunt-therapy.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/Why-Your-Ex-isnt-A-Narcissist-And-You-Should-Stop-Saying-He-Is-150x84.jpg",150,84,true],"medium":["https:\/\/www.blunt-therapy.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/Why-Your-Ex-isnt-A-Narcissist-And-You-Should-Stop-Saying-He-Is-200x113.jpg",200,113,true],"medium_large":["https:\/\/www.blunt-therapy.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/Why-Your-Ex-isnt-A-Narcissist-And-You-Should-Stop-Saying-He-Is-768x432.jpg",768,432,true],"large":["https:\/\/www.blunt-therapy.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/Why-Your-Ex-isnt-A-Narcissist-And-You-Should-Stop-Saying-He-Is-400x225.jpg",400,225,true],"1536x1536":["https:\/\/www.blunt-therapy.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/Why-Your-Ex-isnt-A-Narcissist-And-You-Should-Stop-Saying-He-Is.jpg",800,450,false],"2048x2048":["https:\/\/www.blunt-therapy.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/Why-Your-Ex-isnt-A-Narcissist-And-You-Should-Stop-Saying-He-Is.jpg",800,450,false],"tiny":["https:\/\/www.blunt-therapy.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/Why-Your-Ex-isnt-A-Narcissist-And-You-Should-Stop-Saying-He-Is.jpg",60,34,false],"thumbnail-medium":["https:\/\/www.blunt-therapy.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/Why-Your-Ex-isnt-A-Narcissist-And-You-Should-Stop-Saying-He-Is.jpg",480,270,false],"thumbnail-square":["https:\/\/www.blunt-therapy.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/Why-Your-Ex-isnt-A-Narcissist-And-You-Should-Stop-Saying-He-Is.jpg",480,270,false],"thumbnail-portrait":["https:\/\/www.blunt-therapy.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/Why-Your-Ex-isnt-A-Narcissist-And-You-Should-Stop-Saying-He-Is.jpg",480,270,false],"thumbnail-large":["https:\/\/www.blunt-therapy.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/Why-Your-Ex-isnt-A-Narcissist-And-You-Should-Stop-Saying-He-Is.jpg",720,405,false]},"uagb_author_info":{"display_name":"Randy Withers, LCMHC","author_link":"https:\/\/www.blunt-therapy.com\/author\/randy-withers\/"},"uagb_comment_info":0,"uagb_excerpt":"It's become commonplace to attack narcissists on social media. 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